This is Why I Believe SCOTUS Should Approve Gay Marriage

This is Why I Believe SCOTUS Should Approve Gay Marriage

marriage equalityOver the recent years, I believed two people of the same sex should be able to legally marry, but I personally didn’t know how to defend the right to marry.

This week I finally worked it out in my mind and now believe whole-heartedly that marriage for gay people should be legal and it is discriminatory to not make this happen.

We’ve heard more times than we can count from religious people that marriage is traditionally and biblically should only occur when it’s between one man and one woman. Therefore they want to keep the laws to only allow for marriage benefits and advantages here in the United States when it fits that criteria.

As I look at what I see in history, and of course in the Bible, the obvious examples of marriage situations that are NOT one man and one women and include people God says are after His heart. But there are other things that stand out to me as being more common to a marriage historically that I believe are significant.

I see two people who make a decision to establish a relationship that is different than friendship, or companionship. They decide to live as one, a family with a common investment in the relationship and its life and future.

The relationship is based on love, care and nurture. In some marriages, there is the inclusion of children both natural and/or adopted. Based on the depth of connection and emotional investment, when desired or needed, the relationship is submitted to further knowledge and counsel for improvement or repair to maintain it.

There are often financial commitments and investments. Decisions are made together for home and family. Consideration is given for household investments and maintenance. A weaving of life and belonging that is significant and indicative of a marriage.

Extended family is included such as siblings and parents. There is a shared concern for their lives and wellbeing. In many cases, holidays and a shared history of tradition is built. There is an expectation for future years together. Weddings, birthdays, and funerals are also shared events with a deeper emotional connection each time they occur.

In most marriages, there is a decision to cohabit, to spend each day together in some significant way. A physical closeness is experienced for emotional support, comfort, encouragement, and sexual intimacy. Spending the energy to keep up with life events on a daily basis because each wants the other to know that someone cares and is a significant part of the other’s life. A deep knowing of the other, a looking in the eyes; sharing humor, grief, and daily life emotions is significant in a healthy marriage.

Spiritual bonds form through faith, religious convictions and practice. Stimulating one another to further growth in their faith journey is also significant for those who share a desire to do so.

When two people share a life together in this type of marriage the US government has offered a license allowing for legal benefits available for those who are married. In many states, when a couple has been living together like this for seven years, it’s called a common law marriage, recognized as legal. Some corporations and employers also offer common benefits such as medical insurance for couples that are married in this manner.

While many utilize clergy to facilitate the commitment, many others do not, taking advantage of a licensed person or government official for the vows. Marriage in the US is not always viewed as a God centered event, therefore the freedom of religion allows for this to be the case.

Some who oppose marriage for anyone other than an opposite sex couple, minimize the reality of this kind of marriage for couples who are of the same sex. They lack the clarity of thought and reason that can see that gender has nothing to do with real marriage. Two people, regardless of their gender, can emulate marriage as it has always been respected throughout history.

There are religions that do not approve of same sex marriage. That is their freedom and right to live within their own religious convictions. A religious pastor or leader who by conviction will not marry two people of the same sex are free to maintain their restrictions. In no way does another view of marriage nullify their belief. In the same way, our US government has seen fit to devise a system where one religion cannot be a guiding factor for our country. Our country has been built upon religious freedom and diversity.

Therefore, it is my conviction and belief that if two people decide to weave their lives together in a legal marriage, as described above, regardless of their gender, they should be given the right to the benefits and advantages afforded all married couples in this country. Their relationship should be legally recognized as set apart from friendship, or a business partnership.

All we have to do is to look around and see there are thousands of same-sex couples that are already married in spirit, but at this time are not allowed the benefits of opposite sex couples.

It is my hope that the Supreme Court of the Unites States will approve the order allowing same sex couples to marry and to see that any other decision would be to discriminate against same sex couples.

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2 Responses to “This is Why I Believe SCOTUS Should Approve Gay Marriage”

  1. eileen says:

    Hi John, I hope you don’t mind my dialoguing with you again. We are now in the aftermath of the Supreme Court approving gay marriage in our country.

    I admit that my heart is grieved over this decision not just because of the issue itself, but because it is a symbol of an incredibly blessed nation turning its back on God and His will and purpose for us by a people that has chosen to go their own way. So to me, the issue is much greater than just approving gay marriage.

    You infer from your post that because not everyone believes in God and therefore should not be forced to live according to His edict. OK, I’ll give you that. But there’s also the other side of that coin in that as a believer in Christ and His Word I, in turn, should not be forced to acknowledge/approve or conduct my business in a way that would not allow me to practice my personal opposition to this issue, and yet because of this ruling, that day is coming and in many respects is already here.

    It is not a “live and let live” reality, but a one-sided view that will now force those opposing said view to either compromise or suffer the consequences of their religious convictions.

    Ultimately, though, my prayer is that all of us, for we are all sinners in need of our Savior’s grace would truly seek His perfect unchangeable will and turn towards Him in spirit and in truth.

    I totally sense your kindness and gentleness and am grateful for that, John, and I will continue to pray for you, for me, and for all of us who profess Christ as our all-in-all.

  2. John Smid says:

    You have very strong beliefs and thoughts on this challenging matter.

    In our country, people cannot be allowed to discriminate when they run a public business. Years ago our country went through this with race discrimination and now we are facing a similar issue with regards to the LGBT community. I understand someone not wanting to make a wedding cake for a gay wedding. I get that. But, a general business really should not close their doors to someone just because they are gay. And – a Christian should certainly not do this as the Christian doctrine is rooted in being a witness to all who enter. Serving a gay couple is in no way forcing anyone to compromise their values! Did Jesus compromise His values by the way He interacted with the public?? I think not.

    As far as our nation being blessed, we do live in a profitable nation for sure. But I’ve heard some say God will judge our nation based on the changed in how we respond to homosexuality. Gobbaldy gook!!!! If God were going to judge this nation (which I do not believe God will do that) it would be for far worse matters such as not feeding the poor, or the immense pride and arrogance that is paramount in this country!

    I appreciate your comments on me being kind and gentle. I work at that and am glad you see it. I have just as many passions as others and in my heart, I often have to sit back and cool down before responding.

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