We can’t live in the past!

We can’t live in the past!


man in red jacketFearful? Questioning? Reflecting on the past? or Pondering the future?

I will trust in Him.


Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all of your ways acknowledge Him and He will make    your path’s straight.


The Message Bible says it this way:


Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.


Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.


I am often evaluating things in my life. The past, the future, they’re almost always on my mind. Did I make a mistake. Have I done something that has hurt someone? Where will this lead me to? Is my future going to be an improvement over the past? How can I make things better? And a lifetime of, “how can things be different?”


I have heard many times that we shouldn’t focus on the past and keep our eyes looking forward. Well, I agree with this to a point but I have learned a great lesson in evaluating life. Let me put it this way:


“The past isn’t the past until it is the past. The past isn’t the past if it’s still the present. The past won’t become the past until you put it in front of you.”


You can quote me on that one. When I think about the past there are times when memories come along with a little piercing in my heart. They can cause me to feel a pang of pain. It is those memories that seem to need some attention. I am tempted to just push them away, which is probably why some people tell us that we don’t need to dwell on the past. They don’t want to feel it either.


But, I have learned that when past wounds, unresolved conflicts, and hurts come to my mind I have to check to see if there is pain with them.  If there is and they are resolved with healing in my soul, they change. I think of it this way:


childhood-memories1

“When an emotional soul wound is healed it can change from being an emotional memory to an intellectual memory. That is when I know healing has taken place.”




You can quote me on that one too. Healing from past wounds doesn’t remove our memory of them, it can take the emotional sting out of them so we are free from the pain. But, if we are all honest, we don’t necessarily forget the times we have been hurt or disappointed. Rather we can move away from the present pain they bring up when we do remember them.


There was a childhood memory from when I was about 10 years old that was still painful to think about. The circumstances surrounding it were overwhelming and the exact situation was foreboding and it pulled on my heart each time it came up. And, it did come up. At times it came in prayer, other times when I would talk about that time in my life. When I was with my counselor one day, he asked me to pray with him about this situation. We found Jesus in the middle of it and there was a powerful healing time which brought a change of reference for that situation. A healing salve poured over the memory. Jesus had touched it with His hand.


Now when I think of that situation, my heart is emotionally neutral. I remember the situation, but even more, I remember what Jesus told me during the prayer time and how He changed my point of view. I no longer have a negative emotional tie to it, rather it is a memory that is purely an intellectual memory of the situation.


So, when I am fearful to face something from my past or questioning it with my soul, I seek to find out a solution through bringing Jesus into it with me. He knows my heart, he knows all of the details. And if there is someone else involved, He knows their heart too.


And when the healing seems to be far away and maybe even impossible, I continually learn more about trusting Him in the process. I have also learned that He will provide the right timing for my heart surgery. Now is not always the right time even though I may grow impatient for things to get better.


Sometimes God wants to bring someone else into the healing. Maybe He is working on their heart as well. In my selfishness I can say, “God – right now”, “I want it now!” But in the love that Christ wants me to walk in, I may need to be patient in waiting for His timing for all concerned. And in the process, God is not putting my life on “pause”, He is preparing me as well and growth continues all around.


black trust ring

I have a ring with a Hebrew inscription on it. I can’t read Hebrew but the paper that came with the ring says that it said, “Trust in the Lord”.



Boy, I need this ring every day in my life. I can easily get overwhelmed with impatience, fears, insecurities and the like. It is cool when someone asks to see the ring and wonders what it says, I am forced to say, “It says “Trust in the Lord”" and I can see that maybe He is using the person’s question to bring me to once again verbalize where my trust is at.


Take a deep breath – there, that’s it.


No matter what has come to your mind or your life today, make a decision. Where is your trust? Is it in Him? I often say, If I can’t trust Him today then who can I trust. If He isn’t trustworthy, that I just as well give up totally. But that is also a trustworthy place to be because I know He won’t let me go.


Heb. 13:5-6

Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” So we say with confidence, “The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?”


Funny how this passage connects the love of money and discontent in contrast with trusting in God’s ever present commitment to us. We do try to do it ourselves when we fear He isn’t with us. His exhortation is to know that He is our helper and to remember man can do nothing to me outside of God’s hand on us.


I can trust in Him.


Trust

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.


Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track.


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4 Responses to “We can’t live in the past!”

  1. John Smid says:

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    Today’s story was really great. Thanks.

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  2. Susan Bass says:

    Thank you, John, for this inspiring and encouraging message.The past shapes our future and shouldn’t always be swept under the rug ignoring the lessons that the Lord may have for us through the experience. Once the memory becomes healthy, we should also use those past experiences as memorials of God’s power, compassion, and love, and His willingness to set us free from the bondage of our pain and sin.

  3. John Smid says:

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    Thank you, John, for this inspiring and encouraging message.The past shapes our future and shouldn’t always be swept under the rug ignoring the lessons that the Lord may have for us through the experience. Once the memory becomes healthy, we should also use those past experiences as memorials of God’s power, compassion, and love, and His willingness to set us free from the bondage of our pain and sin.

  4. Tim Raper says:

    John, your blogs always provokes my thought’s like nothing else. Thank you for that!! A little over three years ago, my life took a very different turn. As a result , my misplaced security was ripped from me. Once good memories, were now feelings of failure and loss. Christmas, once the happiest time of the year, I could not bare to see coming. Old familiar songs, once family traditions, and decorations, were all signs that I had failed at life.

    This year has been so much better. I realize that God time- managed my healing at a pace. I now have new traditions, new Christmas music,the old decorations are gone and have been replaced with new. There is a new cheer in the air and in my life. It was not a “right now”, healing, but a time-managed renewal from my creator. We often here “time heals all things”. I choose to believe that God in is infinite wisdom, knows just the right time for what we need. My security in now all in him. Only he can take a broken heart and mend it back a gain, In his time.

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