Comments on: Dealing with Fantasy http://www.gracerivers.com/dealing-with-fantasy/ Just another WordPress weblog Sun, 05 May 2013 12:23:28 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Drew VanDyche http://www.gracerivers.com/dealing-with-fantasy/comment-page-1/#comment-12192 Drew VanDyche Tue, 25 Jan 2011 20:13:37 +0000 http://www.gracerivers.com/?p=304#comment-12192 One thing that I always found that helped to take the power of out an initial obsession/attraction was to get to know the person. A lot of the time, once I got to know a person and heard their heart, as well as understanding the emotional/psychological baggage that they carried, I would realize that I wasn't as attracted to them as I first thought. When we begin to unpack attractions and the assumptions/projections that most often accompany attractions, we begin to see others as they truly are and not as possible fulfillment's of something missing in our lives. When we stop projecting our own unacknowledged God-given qualities and gifts, the beauty of our own personhood and blessing onto others, we begin to see others as they really are, without the rose-colored glasses. One thing that I always found that helped to take the power of out an initial obsession/attraction was to get to know the person. A lot of the time, once I got to know a person and heard their heart, as well as understanding the emotional/psychological baggage that they carried, I would realize that I wasn’t as attracted to them as I first thought.

When we begin to unpack attractions and the assumptions/projections that most often accompany attractions, we begin to see others as they truly are and not as possible fulfillment’s of something missing in our lives. When we stop projecting our own unacknowledged God-given qualities and gifts, the beauty of our own personhood and blessing onto others, we begin to see others as they really are, without the rose-colored glasses.

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